The first thing you can usually observe in male and female relations is that the girl makes eye contact with the guy she likes, and once the guy has spotted the girl making eye contact the two of them will lock each others gazes for a few seconds until she looks away. The guy then confused, sits there watching whether she does it again, which she usually does and this time smiles or giggles a bit giving the guy the confirmation he needs to decide to approach the girl. However, before doing so the guy and girl alike will both start grooming themselves: the guy will fix his tie if he has one on, straighten his pants and shirt as he gets up, and the girl will start playing with her jewelry, fiddling with her hair and crossing her legs. Once the guy reaches the girl to talk they will initiate a conversation of some sort - short into the conversation you can usually see how things are going. In the best case scenarios they are joking around, she is laughing as she taps his wrist, arm or shoulder sometimes even removing pieces of lint from his clothing as a sign of affection and caring. All these subtle physical touches slowly create an intimacy, as they are both opening up and getting comfortable in each others Intimate Zone.
Women's Signs
The problem is that many guys interpret smiles and staring in the wrong context and confuse flirting with friendliness (mainly because males have 15 times more testosterone and think everything in sex terms) so it's best if you read all those signals in groups of gestures. The following are some of the most popular signs of attraction used by women:
Touch Me, Myself & I: At the beginning of an encounter women may start to smooth out their clothes, stretch out their top which is sticking to their bodies, making them feel self conscious about their figures Deeper into conversation however, and once they have gotten to know each other, the woman will start caressing her body in a sensual way. Women have more nerve sensors than men making them more sensitive to touch. The woman might touch her neck which is very popular, her thigh, her stomach, all in a way that is implying she'd like to be touched that way by the guy, because, as mentioned in the initial article, our brains make our bodies reveal our hidden desires.
Pheromone Hair: This is one of the first gestures used by women during flirtation. Usually, they will flick their hair backwards over their shoulder or move it to the side with their hand as a way to display the face better, even if the woman only has short hair. Apart from emphasizing their delicate facial features by flicking their hair, women do this gesture because it allows them to lift up their arm and in the process expose their arm pit where the 'sex perfume' known as pheromone scent is released for the male to smell (it was stronger in our primitive ancestors). Ladies...just beware of using this flirtation gesture with me because I for one carry a can of deodorant to spray on you while I yell "Rape!, Rape!!" :)
Vagina Mouth: During puberty, womens faces fill out withsubcutaneous fat making their lips thicker and fuller compared to mens. About 4,000 years ago ancient Egyptians believed womens facial lips developed proportionately to their outer genital lips during puberty. It's commonly known that when women are sexually aroused their genital lips flush with the blood turning red, so the Egyptian women invented lipstick as a form of alerting men when an adolescent female was sexually mature. When a woman starts pouting and wetting her lips while lowering her eye lids in a sensual way it is usually a sign of attraction. I just had to refrain myself from using this picture as the example...took a lot of strength.
Wrist Display: There are certain vulnerable spots in our bodies due to their fragility or delicacy that we tend to protect: our neck, throat and wrist being some of them. Most people if you observe, usually walk with their wrists facing the sides of their body as a way of protection, however, if you observe some people with mental illnesses such as schizophrenia sufferers, they will walk with their palms and wrists facing backwards as an additional protection. Plenty of over-the-top gay men use the wrist display constantly even walking around with it as an attempt to look effeminate. When women are interested in men they will slowly start showing him glimpses of their wrists and the more they like them the longer the glimpses will last - this is why the wrist has always been considered a highly erotic area as women have more nerve receptors there making it more sensitive, which is where applying perfume on the wrists comes from. There are a variety of ways women choose to expose their wrists, from touching their wrists themselves (Touch Me, Myself & I technique), to putting their wrists on the table in front of a male, as well as the popular wrist exposure that comes with women smokers who do it quite obviously.
Boob Shoulder: As I mentioned in the first paragraph, what we define as being "sexy" or "hot" is our male and female gender differences, which in women is mostly composed of having more curvaceous bodies than men. A form of highlighting this fact is a gesture known as the Boob Shoulder, where women will choose to look at men (in the first parts of courtships before meeting) sideways while raising their shoulder slightly upwards, symbolically making it appear like a breast to emphasize their femininity (though is Paris's case it would appear more like a malnourished anorexic one) .
My Hips Don't Lie: Women as we all know, have wider hips than men due to the fact that they need a wider pelvic region for childbearing purposes. This also means that women have a wider gap in their crotch which doesn't allow them to run as fast as men, but makes them walk in a way that emphasizes their hips with a unique wiggle men can't do. It has been found that the most healthy women with best chances of reproduction, are the ones who have a 70% waist to hip ratio, meaning their waist is 70% the size of their hips - not surprisingly this is the ratio men unconsciously find most attractive. Woman who feel a connection or attraction with the man they are speaking with, will also tilt their hips from side to side resting their whole weight on one leg to make that hip side protrude.
Insightful Purse: Three words that are guaranteed to humiliate any man anywhere? ... 'Hold my purse'. But what men don't realize is that this simple action can speak vastly of how a women feels towards them. A woman's purse is one of the most personal things they own, in a sense, it has passed from being an accessory to becoming an extension of a woman as it carries all of her most intimate mysteries that most of us men live in fear of knowing ... heck I'm afraid if I stick my hand in one I'll come out with a finger missing or something. When women accept and feel attracted towards a guy, they will put the purse close to him as opposed to hiding it some place further away. The woman might start softly touching their purse as they talk to the guy, and when they begin to feel a stronger connection they will even entrust him with holding the purse, or looking inside and searching for something.
Pointing: As previously mentioned, our legs are the part of the body that is furthest away from the brain and therefore the area we are least aware of. When women or men feel interest in someone they will start pointing at them either with their feet (usually their lead walking foot or both) while standing, or their knee while sitting. How a persons shows interest in another when sitting down is achieved by tucking one leg under the other - the tucked-under-legs knee will be pointing towards the direction of the person they feel attracted to.
Tight Legs: Unlike other crossed leg gestures that show negativity, defensiveness or uncertainty, when women cross their legs in a flirtation environment and don't use other negative gestures such as crossing their arms, this indicates the female is trying to draw attention to her legs by tightly pressuring one leg firmly against the other to emphasize their high muscle tone. Psychiatrist Dr Albert Scheflen goes on to even suggest that such a gesture is the position a body takes when the person is preparing for sexual performance.
Facial Pedestal: When a woman joins her hands together by putting one over the other and resting her face on them, it doesn't have anything to do with the "Head Support" boredom gesture. In fact this gesture reveals the total opposite meaning as it means she likes the company of the man and wants to display her face on a pedestal to gain his attention and let him admire her. Giving a compliment and the use of some flattery in those moments seems to get many men very far.
Men's Signs
This article is part of the Beginners Guide To Body Language series, you can read the rest of the articles by clicking here.
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